Struggling
With Your
Relationship?
Since 2007, we've helped over 4000 couples, and become the best resource for gay couples looking to improve their relationship, and we're glad you're here!
Shift from bad arguments, and awkward disconnection
with your partner to a strong bond and great sex in just 90 days!
ABOUT US
Struggling with your Relationship?
Struggling
with your
Relationship?
Since opening our doors in 2007, we have counseled over 4,000 LGBT couples and individuals.
We are also the only program—gay or straight—to publish our outcome results in a peer-reviewed journal.
To gain 100% confidence that this is the best path for you, we invite you to a short call to clarify the exact steps needed to quickly improve your relationship, tailored to your specific background and situation.
YOUR STEPS
What Is The Process?
Simply fill out our friendly questionnaire by clicking on the link below. We will follow up with you.
This no-obligation consultation is designed to give you a chance to ask questions about the process and tell us more about your situation.
Fill Out Application
Complete the simple application to clarify what’s holding your relationship back.
Schedule Your Free Call
Grab a spot at our calendar and schedule your free consultation.
Let's Talk!
Join us on a confidential video call to discuss how we can help improve your relationship.
ABOUT
The Program
My name is Sam Garanzini, and my husband, Alapaki Yee, and I are licensed therapists, gay, and certified to do the Gottman Method with LGBT couples. Since we opened the Gay Couples Institute in 2007, I've been OBSESSED with relationship happiness and satisfaction for same sex couples.
Like many people wanting a better relationship when i was in my early 20's, I enrolled in every course, read every book, and tried every crazy relationship program on the market.
I quickly realized that most of the material out there is only teaching one small part of the puzzle...
Why didn't anyone teach the complete solution!?!
Finally, we were able to piece together all the different things that worked (and tossed out what didn't work) and I really started seeing a transformation in our relationship.
We wanted to build something meaningful for other couples just like ourselves, who were struggling at some point.
This led me to distill all of my lessons learned into a signature program - the COMPLETE step-by-step program people just like you are using to create a long-lasting connection with a partner, feel personally confident, and someday retire happily together...
...in just 90 days.
It doesn't matter if you're just starting out, or you have already been on this journey for a while... This works!
The "Gay Relationship Revolution Program" is a research-proven system designed to help same-sex couples in committed relationships—and individuals—rapidly increase their relationship happiness and satisfaction within just 90 days.
This program removes the obstacles that many individuals and couples face when seeking therapy or reading relationship books, offering instead a straightforward, effective plan.
ABOUT
The Therapists
We founded the Gay Couples Institute to provide you with access to exceptional couples counseling.
As licensed therapists who were often dismayed by the inaccurate advice our friends received, we set out to create a network of professionals you can trust, where you feel safe and well cared for.
Almost two decades later, Gay Couples Institute and Queer Couples Center has worked with over 4000 LGBTQ+ couples!
Alapaki Yee, MFT
I'm the Clinical Director and Lead Therapists for our Institute, and have seen thousands of couples during my career.
I enjoy working at the Gay Couples Institute because I enjoy positively helping other gay couples with their relationship; that I had a small part to help them get along better, communicate better, and even last long term.
I practice what I preach; these skills are the same ones I use in my own marriage with Sam. We don't get it perfect, either, but they've helped us stay happily together for 20 years.
Sam Garanzini, MFT, LPCC
As a gay teen in Missouri, I found it really difficult to meet a serious boyfriend, and then somehow keep a relationship going. I struggled with this well into my 20's even after moving to San Francisco.
A teacher at heart, I started as an adjunct professor at the University of San Francisco when I was just 28 years old.
I've been certified to teach the Gottman Method to other therapists since 2009, and taught psychophamacology for twelve years at USF.
Today, I run the professional development and training division of our Institute, helping therapists learn solid skills and better serve the LGBTQ+ community.
Over many years we've seen firsthand how great couples therapy can improve the relationships of our close friends and family.
My life's goal is to make sure that when you reach out to a professional for advice, you get an answer you can trust.
WHAT WE OFFER
The Tools
Coaching/Therapy
Follow a proven nine-step process for rebuilding connection, overcoming hurt, and rekindling physical desire in your relationship.
Toolkits
Work on your own using a specific piece of our program designed to help you stop fighting, and connect physically again.
Training
For professionals, learn to apply the Gottman Method to same-sex relationships using a culturally-informed, research-based process.
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Published Results
The Gay Couples Institute is the only relationship center in the world, gay or straight, to transparently measure our techniques and determine whether we're effective, at all.
We published our outcome data in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy in October 2017.
The results were amazing. Relationship satisfaction scores of 106 studied couples at the Gay Couples Institute showed immediate rapid improvement in their relationship upon learning the skills taught in this revolutionary program.
More importantly, they were able to maintain those gains upon follow up.
This speaks ultimately to the abilities and inherent success of same-sex relationships, despite being oppressed minority in parts of the world.
Gay Relationship Revolution Program
Signature Program For LGBT Couples
12 Lessons
271 Reviews
6 Weeks
Stop Fighting Toolkit
Move Your Relationship From Conflict to Connection
12 Lessons
271 Reviews
6 Weeks
Sexual and Emotional Toolkit
Rekindle your fire, and have a more enjoyable sex life with less pressure
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Frequently Asked Questions
How does this work?
Success in enhancing your relationship happiness and satisfaction hinges on three critical elements:
Commitment
• Full Engagement: You must be fully committed, ready to take decisive action, and motivated to move beyond current challenges. Lasting change starts with a 100% commitment to the process.
Clarity
• Proven Roadmap: Instead of aimlessly searching and piecing together fragmented advice, our program offers a clear, structured path. The Gay Relationship Revolution Program provides the precise steps you need, from start to finish, minimizing overwhelm and eliminating guesswork.
Confidence
• Dedicated Support: Confidence grows from knowing you have continual support and expert coaching tailored to your unique circumstances. Our program ensures you remain accountable and progress steadily, with our team guiding you every step of the way.
By integrating these elements, our program not only clears the path but walks you down it, providing unparalleled support to achieve the relationship happiness you seek. If you’re ready to transform your relationship, the Gay Relationship Revolution Program is your gateway to a happier, healthier partnership.
What are the steps and phases of the Program?
The Gay Relationship Revolution Program is a structured, three-phase system designed specifically for gay couples and individuals who are committed to enhancing their relationship satisfaction within just 90 days. Our program follows a distinct “Me, You, Us” framework that systematically builds towards comprehensive relationship health.
The “Me” Phase
• My Personal Mindset System: First, we’ll utilize our Personal Mindset System that helps our clients take control of their relationship mindset. You must believe that you're capable of improving your situation, otherwise the rest of the steps do not take hold.
• My Personal Happiness Process: Then, our unique Personal Happiness process will ensure you will take control of your life's path. You need to feel happy as an individual. We devote specific resources toward this for you.
• My Personal Connection Framework: The third step shows you how to take control of your physical body using our Personal Connection framework. Avoiding overwhelm and working through personal trauma are good goals to have for this step in the Program.
The “You” Phase
• Your Connection With Others: This step strengthens your emotional connections, starting with your partner, enhancing the depth and quality of your interactions.
• Your Conflict With Others System: Learn to transform conflicts into opportunities, using disagreements as catalysts for growth and understanding.
• Your Correction With Others Framework: Specifically for those recovering from breaches of trust, this framework offers customized strategies to rebuild and strengthen relationships.
The “Us” Phase
• Us Becoming Lovers: Once we have the first two Phases in place, we’ll kick off the "Us" stage by working through the "Become Lovers" lessons that help you cultivate your physical passion. We utilized concepts from breathwork, tantra meditation, different types of yoga, and massage to help our couples renew their physical vitality.
• Us Becoming Friends: We found that it's very possible to love someone, but not necessarily like them. We show you how to proactively work on your friendship and connection, just like when you started dating.
• Us Becoming Partners: The final step of our Gay Relationship Revolution Program coaching is to ensure all of our clients are able to create a shared vision of the future using the Become Partners system. We help our clients set up new rituals, roles, goals, and symbols, and create a new way to recalibrate if things go off track again.
What about insurance?
We do not accept insurance due to privacy concerns. However, we can provide statements for FSA, HSA, or out-of-network insurance reimbursement.
Is there a deadline?
Yes, due to high demand, we can only serve 15 clients at a time. Don’t miss your chance; book a call today to secure your spot.
How am I supported after the program ends?
Nearly all of our clients continue beyond the initial 90-day program into a regular monthly meeting in order to instill their new habits long term.
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